Making a specific ask that includes the top 3 qualities your seeking in a mate is more likely to fill up your dance card than just waiting for other to think of you for a blind date.6.

Single moms; avoid the temptation to make your new dating guy a parenting helper straight away.

Don’t have him take on parenting roles too soon into the relationship.

Last time I wrote about how becoming a single mother meant having your entire life flipped upside-down.

You’ve been handed a challenging combination of emotions and responsibilities, and now you’ve got to figure out how to manage.

Say Yes – As a the mother of a 3-year-old, I understand that it feels weird to go out again after you’ve had kids but this time when someone invites you somewhere, say yes. You are sexy, caring, a great match and to snag your next spouse you need to feel good about yourself. Many moms are so over-committed that new partners feel you don't have time for them.

Try getting a new wardrobe (or a few pieces) or starting a new workout routine. I recommend carving out 2 to 3 hour 'dates' every week that you can use to see someone new, go to a singles mixer, or browse dating sites.

This could cause tension with the kids as well as scare him away as he might not be ready for that responsibility.

Remember single parent dating is a slow and steady process! As a single mom you know how important it is for you to be at your son’s soccer match or your daughter’s piano recital, these are your parental priorities. You might get caught up in the excitement of single parent dating but remember the children come first and your new guy must be able to handle this decision.

It is no doubt overwhelming, and certainly something you can’t do on your own.