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I just read your responses to “Does My Virginity Turn Guys Off? It was great advice, tailored for a young woman who was 20. Though I am not particularly prudish, I have been working under the assumption that even with the best birth control, scientifically speaking, a baby is a possible by-product of sex.

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They are twenty years apart, and they’ve been together for two. “I watch so many of my other friends agonize over text messages from guys who . It’s not an “old-fashioned” dating scheme, it’s just a more humane one.

“I wasn’t trying to go back in time,” Gabrielle added at the end of our conversation.

They may go on to date women their own age, or to move to different places, but we stay friends. And then every so often, their relationships end, and they return to me. When lots of stamina (and blissfully short recovery periods) meets confidence and experience, it’s a terrific combination.

Some women tell me they’d feel too insecure about their bodies to sleep with someone young, but when you operate on the criterion I do — that they have to be nice — you meet younger men who appreciate everything about older women.

As a result, my so-called casual relationships go on a lot longer than most people’s so-called committed ones.

I date younger men off and on over periods of 2, 3, 4, 5 — or even 15 years.

But I’ve noticed a new strategy among my set of female friends—lovely, intelligent, independent women—to combat the grime of the online dating world: date up. More and more women I know are dating men twice, yes , Anne Hathaway stands with Robert De Niro and a bunch of young male colleagues in a bar and draws a harsh comparison: “How in one generation have men gone from guys like Jack Nicholson and Harrison Ford to . I see what Hathaway means: Why put up with Tinder when there’s a whole generation of men out there who wouldn’t dream of using it?

There have never been more advantages to relationships with older men, precisely because Tinder and its ilk have made dating feel impossible to those of us who don’t want to participate in the battle of who-cares-less.

Reach back two decades and you are more likely to find a man who can’t fathom swiping through a series of pictures to find a mate for the night.

My friend Gabrielle met her boyfriend at a restaurant opening. just clearly don’t care.” The stereotypes, she says, are true: Older men are attentive, they aren’t threatened by your career success, they didn’t grow up watching porn on their laptops, and they certainly don’t expect sex from you before you’ve even had a chance to meet.

Although I am not religious and am very liberal, I am politically pro-choice but personally pro-life.