Check back every week for her take on dating and relationships.Atlanta, Georgia (CNN) -- "Would you be upset if a friend starting dating someone they knew you were once deeply in love with?Editor's note: Audrey Irvine is a senior assignment manager for CNN.

A Confused Teenage Girl Dear Teen, You are struggling with a dilemma that women,men,teens and adults deal with throughout life.

In my experience, friends appreciate hearing directly from friends rather than learning sensitive information from others.

" This is the status I was greeted with this week on the Facebook page of one of my dear girlfriends.

My knee-jerk response was "Duh, who wouldn't be pissed?

While it’s become more of a norm among Hollywood than one would think, dating the same people and remaining friends and all, isn’t this usually against girl code? In fact, her current beau, Calvin Harris, dated one of her BFFs before they got together.

Swifty seems to be okay with it all, so we it’s fine… To see who we’re talking about and which other friends of Tay’s have dated the same guys she did, check out the gallery below.

These are the types of situations when it is possible to have a platonic relationship. It’s easy to wonder if feelings have changed, if there is some spark underneath all that effort.

G., I am a 17-year-old girl and I'm going into my senior year of high school. My friend broke up with her boyfriend of 6 months about a month ago. Now that I'm working with this boy-maybe we can call him Jim-I'm starting to like him. He asked me to go to a movie this past weekend but I said no because I was so nervous and confused about what to do. There are no clear social rules about this but we can try to tease things apart and discuss some unwritten social rules and etiquette. After a month has passed I believe that you can consider dating him. If she is a close friend then I would suggest that you talk to her and let her know that you are considering dating her ex-boyfriend.

Who might, possibly, be friends with Selena Gomez.* *There’s photographic evidence that she’s mates with Gigi Hadid (they spent New Year’s Eve 2015 together in Dubai), so they at least hang out in the same circle.

To ask that we make that even smaller by setting any ex of a friend off limits is pretty unfair, especially considering that one of the major ways we meet potential dates is through our friends. A bit of crossover is inevitable, and while it may seem noble to deny all attraction for the sake of a mate, it just isn’t realistic – we’re human, we’re horny, and we can very rarely help the fact that we find another human attractive.

If you have made a definite decision to date him then let her know that and reassure her that you will date him but will be low key about it You may also want to find out what went wrong.